Negotiate With Men Via Email (and Women Face-to-Face)
Face-to-face has more tension, so people resort to their instinctive gender roles: Women are caring. Men are aggressive.
Overview
Should you negotiate via face-to-face or email?
Face-to-face builds more rapport, and it promotes more clarity because of the nonverbal cues (Drolet & Morris, 1999; DePaulo & Friedman 1998). Some studies argue that it’s more effective than email negotiations (Valley, Moag, & Bazerman, 1998).
However, other studies found the opposite: Email was better. Negotiators can leave an email thread more easily, so the parties are more motivated to reach an agreement (Hatta, Ohbuchi, & Fukuno 2007; Croson, 1999).
So, which is better?
Surprisingly, it depends on gender (Swab & Swab, 2008). Face-to-face has more tension and arousal, so people resort to their instinctive gender roles:
- Women are caring and communicative.
- Men are dominant and aggressive.
Negotiating with men? Reduce their urge to show dominance by removing nonverbal cues from the conversation — negotiate via email or phone. At the very least, minimize eye contact in person.
Do the opposite for females: Increase nonverbal cues.
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